Many of us have had some form of sex ed back in junior high and high school. Our parents may have helped deepen our understanding of sex and, along with our friends and peers, certainly played a role in shaping our beliefs, fears, myths, judgements, and confidence. It is often the case that young children…
Category: Relationships
Long Distance Relationships
What I’ve learned about long distance relationships —a guest post by a twenty-something Recently in my life, long distance relationships have been coming up a lot. I know people at both ends: ones that resolutely refuse to even consider them and others that really think they can work. One of my friends is currently giving…
When someone says they need to talk…
In any relationship the “need to talk” comes up, as it should. Friends want to talk about a list of things, siblings, possibly the same list with a couple of tweaks, and bosses, a somewhat different list. Your intimate relationships can sometimes have the scariest or most joyous talks of all. Sometimes you may feel…
It’s Not You; It’s Me
Yikes! That’s not something you typically want to hear. Sure, it’s a gentle way of breaking up, but it’s still breaking up. And to top it all off: What if it is you? Relationships end for all kinds of reasons. Maybe it’s true, maybe the person saying “it’s not you…” really means it. You’re great…
It Only Takes a Few Seconds
When you and your loved one/s are busy and short on energy it can be really hard to connect. Breakfast for the kids, meetings all day, and folding the laundry can all equal exhaustion. All you want to do is just sit and veg. But somewhere in there you also really want to feel close,…
Wait, Where is She From?
In this crazy, modern world of ours we see more and more people dating outside of their own culture. While plenty of people around the world and even here in the U.S suffer from oppression and hate, the light is growing at the end of the tunnel. Dating someone from a different cultural heritage can…
The Power of Power Exchange
I was watching a panel discussion recently on BDSM and Power Exchange. Although I am well-versed in the subject, I find it is always a good idea to go into these things as if I am a complete novice. It allows me the opportunity to let someone else answer the questions, and it is often…
Why am I doing this?
Good relationship question: Why are you doing this? Many people seek out relationships as a matter of course, with no thoughts to what they are looking for and what they hope to gain. I’ve talked about this urge before: You know, that sort of blind romanticism. But here is an even more mysterious question: What…
Where Did Everybody Go?
“So, have you been on any holidays recently.” “Yes, my husband died and everybody’s sent me to Coventry, like everybody’s trying to avoid me.” “They all ask about you.” “Well, yes, they ask you about me, they don’t ask me about me.” “You know what they are like, they’re embarrassed.” Sal and Tip, Series 1,…
Love you
For many of us, we know our parents love us and we love them. It is also the case that those of us with kids love our kids and we love them. You could say that that love flows back and forth despite knowing them or even without actually knowing them. It’s good to be…