Today is the day marketing makes all of us either feel bitter or sad because we don’t have a fill-in-the-blank, or moon-faced because we do. For some of us, the memories of all those Valentine’s Days Past where we were unable to express our true selves and love whom or how we wanted to bring…
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Fruits, Vegetables, and Relationships
Next time you visit your grocery store, take note of your relationship to produce. What do you look for? What are your expectations? Consider this: We’re doing to fruits and vegetables what we do to relationships. We’ve gradually come to expect produce to look like the glossy, air-brushed pics in magazines, and we think we…
Doing Love
I’ve talked before about love being an action. Some people would would call it showing love; I prefer “doing love.” Have you ever asked yourself, What love do I do? I’ll give you an example, Some people are service-oriented. They help others, and it’s in their nature. So, a person like that might do their…
Spontaneous
That would be great, wouldn’t it? And if anyone has watched (spoiler alert), Netflix’s first season of Bridgerton, they would see quite a bit of it. Having those glorious moments in a relationship is magical. Heavy breathing, clothes strewn about, bodies rubbing together. . . . Instead you get: You wanna? Sure. Necessary clothing off,…
How Do I Love Thee?
Ah, love. So natural, so wonderful. We just fall in love, right? And then, everything is wonderful. And then, what? We feel love for our parents, grandparents, children, neighbors, friends, lovers, and so on. On the surface that love may look the same — we use the same word, after all — but when we…
Are You There?
I’ve knocked at the door, rung the door bell, and then knocked harder. Every now and then I catch a glimpse of her through the window or I think she is sitting next to me on the couch, but when I check again, she’s not there. My dearest companion seems to be lost or in…
An Agreement?
Yep, that’s what I said (in the previous post), an agreement. Yes, like a contract. How many times have you rolled your eyes and grudgingly washed the dishes, or cleaned the cat box, or paid for dinner, or. . . ? An agreement in a relationship helps create boundaries, establish expectations, and prevent those eye-rolling…
Getting Real
In the previous post, we indulged in a little story time. How was it? All that fantasizing and story telling get your juices flowing and your heart a-flutter? You’ve worked a few things out now and you‘re ready to dip your finger in the pie? Now, you have to take all that fun stuff and…
Story Time
In the previous post, I dropped a bomb: Yes, you have to make actual decisions about the relationship you want. Some of you may be thinking, But it takes the magic away. Let’s dive into a picture: Don’t they look happy, as in happily-ever-after? We looked at some different kinds of relationships you could have,…
Let’s Relationshop!
What do you want in a relationship? Do you want a fit, blue eyed hunk? Maybe a cute, nice-assed brunette who loves football? How about a doctor, a CEO, or maybe a chef? Do you picture 2.5 children, a lovely two-story house with big trees and a yard for the dog (or cat)? Here is…