Such an intriguing acronym, BDSM- Bondage/discipline, Dominant/submissive, Sado-Masochism. The first and most important feature of BDSM is forming an agreement with the person that you will be doing or sharing these activities with. You should never engage in any BDSM activities without one. Agreements can be as simple as negotiating the amount of times and…
Category: Sex
Racial Awareness
I recently heard a panel discussion on open relationships. The discussion ranged from “relationship orientation” to unicorns, and while there were bits and pieces of the discussion that were extremely relevant to our time of loving in the era of covid-19, one topic struck me much more significantly. I like to think of myself has…
Dirty Little Secrets
We all have “thoughts” that turn us on. Some people fantasize about feet, some the feel of leather against their skin, a spanking – both giving or receiving – and a mountain of other luscious desires in between, on top, and over. But, we are often afraid or shy or nervous about sharing these thoughts…
What’s in Your Toy
Sex toys can be wonderful additions to any sex life. They come in all shapes and sizes. Some with motors that rumble and some that purr. Some plug in, some are rechargeable, some need batteries, and others have no motor at all. Many of those with a motor are even water proof or at least…
Worshipping
Have you ever just stopped and wondered what it would be like to worship your lover? What would you do? Where would you start? How would you begin? Do you know all of their secret places, you know, those toe-curling places that make them catch their breath or let out a quiet little moan? Do…
Coming Back to Life
It took about 2 months after stopping Omeprazole, the same amount of time I was on the medication, for my clitoris to normalize. It was a slow process and required patience. And I was quite anxious. It was difficult during that process not to feel like there was something wrong with me, like I was…
Spontaneous
That would be great, wouldn’t it? And if anyone has watched (spoiler alert), Netflix’s first season of Bridgerton, they would see quite a bit of it. Having those glorious moments in a relationship is magical. Heavy breathing, clothes strewn about, bodies rubbing together. . . . Instead you get: You wanna? Sure. Necessary clothing off,…
Are You There?
I’ve knocked at the door, rung the door bell, and then knocked harder. Every now and then I catch a glimpse of her through the window or I think she is sitting next to me on the couch, but when I check again, she’s not there. My dearest companion seems to be lost or in…