Many of us have had some form of sex ed back in junior high and high school. Our parents may have helped deepen our understanding of sex and, along with our friends and peers, certainly played a role in shaping our beliefs, fears, myths, judgements, and confidence. It is often the case that young children…
Category: Sex
A Bed Isn’t Just For Sleeping — Unless It Is
You’ve really needed a new bed, and the day has finally arrived that you and your sleeping partner hit up the mattress store. So many choices! Pillow top, euro top, springs, no springs, the latest in memory foam — it can be bewildering. You spend some time rolling around, pretending to sleep and watch t.v…
Ouchie
Recently I heard a tale of a young woman who went to her gynecologist complaining of pain during intercourse. And I must say that if you are experiencing pain during intercourse you should always pay a visit to the doctor. There are a number of reasons intercourse could be painful — STIs or cancer are…
Hard and Soft Limits
You’ve made a list of your yes, no, maybe’s and now you need to specify what your boundaries are within those “yes” activities! First and foremost you need a safe word. A word that means “no”, but is a far away from “no” as you can get, like giraffe. It needs to be something that…
Yes, No, Maybe So
A great way to maintain clear boundaries in your relationships is to have a “Yes, No, Maybe” list. And having more than one, for different elements of your relationship is even better. Often times people use it for sex, sex, sex, sex, sex! Getting together with your sexual partner/s and making this list can open…
I Have A Headache
The perfect excuse when you are “not in the mood”- a headache. But I’m going to venture a suggestion that may seem unpopular and could come across as offensive to some. Why not just do it anyway? If you are in a respectful relationship, with good communication and boundaries, what’s wrong with putting out when…
Sex and Disability
Fact: Most people with a disability wanna have sex too. As humans we have a tendency to categorize people — especially those that may be different from us — and put them in boxes like sexy, dumb, ugly, intelligent, blonde, asian, disabled, fat, gay, and on and on. When we put people into these boxes…
“I Should Have Seen This Coming”
Bo: “Could I just ask what this meeting’s for? Is this angry divorcee’s or croning?” Jobo: “No, the menopause, Bo.” Bo: Oh, we don’t have that in America. We don’t believe in it, certainly not in L.A.” Absolutely Fabulous, season 4, episode 6 Menopause At some point in our younger years we hear this word:…
Eating for Better Sex
There are lots of foods out there that have been shown to improve sexual function. You could call them all aphrodisiacs, but many don’t necessarily turn you on as much as help you get it on. Erectile Disfunction is a huge problem, and many people think it’s just what happens as you age. But is…
Sex and Temporary Disability
I use temporary in the title to mean just that, temporary. Long term disability and sex is an invaluable topic and needs to be discussed, but I’ll leave that for another time. Temporary disability means that in time it ends, and things can go back to “normal”. You can also, often, plan for it. Let’s…