I use temporary in the title to mean just that, temporary. Long term disability and sex is an invaluable topic and needs to be discussed, but I’ll leave that for another time. Temporary disability means that in time it ends, and things can go back to “normal”. You can also, often, plan for it.
Let’s say your lover has an upcoming surgery planned, during the days leading up to the surgery the two of you can discuss what you might be able to do for each other during the recuperation time. It is extremely important that you find out from the physician what the limits are. Some surgeries may take “sex” off the table for weeks. But that doesn’t mean that you and your lover cannot be close to each other. There are lost of ways of feeling connected without penetration and orgasms.
If all diddling is out of the question, then just lying naked, embracing each other and breathing together can help calm and center both of you. There can be a lot of stress in temporary disability. How about — still naked — reading each other funny stories? If diddling isn’t out of the question, but needs adjusting, then adjust!! Use pillows, furniture, blankets, get creative — who knows, you may discover some new and interesting techniques.
Having this discussion in advance of a surgical procedure can spare you and your lover days or weeks of not knowing what to do, of feeling resentful over the whole ordeal, and just waiting to be close until the thing blows over. Even if there are no planned procedures on the table accidents and unexpected illnesses pop up all the time, so why not have the discussion anyway. It is a great way to learn more about being naughty with your lover — which is always good.
Nathalie