That would be great, wouldn’t it? And if anyone has watched (spoiler alert), Netflix’s first season of Bridgerton, they would see quite a bit of it. Having those glorious moments in a relationship is magical. Heavy breathing, clothes strewn about, bodies rubbing together. . . .
Instead you get:
You wanna?
Sure. Necessary clothing off, bang bang bang.
Did you check the mail?
Yes, feel free to laugh; we have all been there. The sad truth is if you want spontaneous, passionate lovemaking to happen more than a tiny handful of times, you have to put some effort into it. That does mean there has to be some planning. And not just on one side. If you try and create the ideal situation and your partner is totally unaware, you might find yourself at the dinner table with your mother-in-law instead of on the dinner table with your partner.
With some advance planning for how you two are going to spend Saturday night, you may not be able to wait until you get there. You can spend the whole week teasing, flirting, asking if you should wear the lace thong — or none. Or how about passing those panties or briefs casually to your lover while you are out on a date? Do you want to include a dinner out but don’t want to be too full to fuck? Plan for it! Go out, share one meal, feed each other, and have dessert at home.
You see, whether you realize it or not, you create the experiences that you have — so why not be an active participant? We all know about foreplay, but with a little forethought, you can make the sex life you want.
Nathalie