They met over the fuji apples at the grocery store. He wanted the smaller apple on top of the pile and she wanted the bigger apple at arms length. They reached, brushed hands, and instantly knew that had found something special – just the way you know. The chemistry, the magnetism, the desire, breathless, butterflies. . . .
The fairy tale relationship, what ever that fairy tale may be to you, is one of many fantasies that people have. And while it is important to have fantasies, it isn’t always wise to act on them. Some fantasies should remain just that, a fantasy, while others, with some preliminary work, can be brought to life.
Most of us are want to be loved and many of us want the fireworks, the TLAF (true love always and forever), and the til-death-us-do-part. Stories, movies, songs all give us this message, this yearning. But when we have a peek at the world we actually live in, we see, with a whole lot of evidence, that reality is very different.
So, the question is, how can we have this fairy-tale, fantasy relationship for real? What are the steps necessary to bring this relationship to life? Rolling your eyes at the word “steps” won’t get you far. Yes, you can brush hands with a beautiful stranger while picking out apples, rush home with each other feeling anxious, giddy, in awe, elated, wet; jump into bed, have sex all night, and then . . . what?
Did you just have a marvelous one night stand? Was that the plan, no regrets? Or did you think, surely he/she wants exactly what I want because neither one of us has ever “felt this way before”? Is it awkward now? Should you leave, should they leave, will you call, will they call, what have I done? It’ll be fine, you tell yourself. It has to be. He said he’d never met anyone like me. She said I was incredible.
Does this scenario sound familiar? Okay, maybe not the apples, but how often does a nice-to-meet-you turn into the fairy-tale fantasy — in your head that is, not in real life?
Follow me on a fairy-tail-making journey. Notice I used the word making here. Some fairy tales can come true, but it’s rarely an accident.
Nathalie